Growing up both my parents smoked. Smoking, at that time, was considered socially acceptable. I can remember laying in bed in the morning, as cigarette smoke slowly began to creep into my room. At the time, I was disgusted and really disliked the smell. That didn't stop me from picking up the habit as a teen.
There are a few ways I sense that this habit/addiction was partially (if not all) not mine. First and the most oblivious to me is the fact that second hand smoke became an everyday thing. Was my body addicted already? I sense it's a possibility. It's probably something very few people think about and it probably isn't the case now that there is such strict no smoking laws and people are more considerate.
Another way I wonder if the habit was mine is because we are all so connected and we are empathic. If I would have had some of the tools I have now, maybe it wouldn't have been my habit. For instance, we are able to pick up on other peoples thoughts and feelings. Was the compulsion to smoke, was the craving, was any of it mine? Or was I just that aware of what others around me were feeling and thinking?
Now, I am not making excuses for my choice to smoke. I just wonder though how much of it belong to someone else.
Smoking is just one example of the things we could be buying as ours. How many other habits like compulsive eating or other eating disorders could be an awareness of what someone else is thinking and feeling?
The tools from Access Consciousness® have been instrumental in helping me Identify food cravings and other compulsive behaviors. Asking myself questions like "who does this belong to?" or asking my body if it wants to eat are just a few ways to use the tools. Hands down though getting my bars run regularly helps the most. The bars are 32 points on the head that when gently held have the effect like deleting files on your computer hard drive. It clears the stuck energy in areas of ours lives where we are desiring change.
So what if your habits belong to someone else? Could just acknowledging that help release it? What would it take to have more ease with that and for it to be a simple process? Just some questions to ponder.
If you are interested in having your bars run, or learning more about the tools from Access Consciousness®, I would be happy to guide you to the information.